Judging Superhead

One of my primary faults is that I tend to judge people and issues too quickly. Sometimes I get frustrated with the state of things in Black America, and I react from my gut, rather than thinking calmly. When I heard a former stripper turned video ho wrote a book that everyone was reading, my initial reaction was, “Here we go again, glamorizing this hip hop b.s.”

Confessions of a Video Vixen by Karrine “Superhead” Steffans has vaulted to #8 on the New York Times non-fiction bestseller list. I know about 5 people that are currently reading this book, and I have to admit that I’ve read the first 50 pages. OK, I’m going to read the whole thing. It’s actually very interesting, and I now feel great empathy for Steffans, particularly because of her ridiculously brutal childhood. Steffans’ mother was terribly abusive; her father was non-existent (of course) for most of her childhood. After losing her virginity in a rape, Steffans began stripping when she was only 16–at the urging of her boyfriend’s mother! With guidance like that, who could go right?

You have to give it to anybody that thinks or cares about other people. And I’ll give it up to Steffans; she’s trying to help other folks out.

“For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” Matthew 7:25. A lesson I learn everyday.

TheStateOf…Superhead. One of the more interesting (and scary) stories in the book involves Steffans and Irv Gotti, the recently indicted former CEO of Murder, Inc. Apparently, Gotti, who had his own intimate relationship with Steffans, set Steffans up with P.Diddy for a night. “Ain’t no fun,” right? When she returned from her “average” episode with Diddy, she “did it” to Gotti, and during the act, Gotti constantly asked her about Diddy. He wanted to know details about Diddy’s body, how he did things to her, how he kissed her, etc. Sounded pretty suspect to me. Gotti’ll probably be wearing a tutu real quick in the pen.