Susan Crain Bakos: "Why White Women Like Black Men"

Susan Crain Bakos, a (white) NY sex columnist explains her fetish for black men. In parts outlandish and stereotypical, at other times right on point, this article explains one white woman’s physical, sexual and cultural attraction to black men.
“Black skin is thick and lush, sensuous to the touch, like satin and velvet made flesh. There’s only one patch of skin on a white man’s body that remotely compares to nearly every inch of a black man’s skin. The first time I caressed black skin, it felt like a luxury I shouldn’t be able to afford. I craved it more strongly than Carrie Bradshaw craved Manolo Blahnik shoes. That phrase, “Once you go black, you never go back” is all about the feeling of the skin.”

Her message to black women: “But in truth, black sisters, we’re after the sex, not the ring —and these guys aren’t the marrying kind anyway.”

On the difference between white man and black men: “Black men have something white guys don’t have anymore: confidence in their masculinity, their sexuality. They clearly know they’re men. White men appear to be waiting for the latest sociological research study to let them know if they are men or not. Yet black men are gentlemen, something else white men no longer are. They make me feel like a woman, both respected and desired. I can let go of my inhibitions, my need to control, when I am with them. How many white men can treat a woman like a lady and ravish her too?”

She continues . . .“White men over 40 have lost their waistlines and their zest for life—if they ever had it. They carry resentments, grudges and extra pounds in their basketball bellies. Perhaps a good part of that bloat is unhappiness. Even the thin ones look flabby somehow and deeply aggrieved. They nurse the smallest perceived slight longer than their double shots of Scotch. Surely our culture as much as biology turns them into softer, spongier, less-interesting versions of their youthful selves just at the point where women and black men and other minorities are emerging strong. Society overvalues the white man, leaving him angry and bitter when he realizes, around age 40, that he’s not all that.”

TheStateOf. . .white women/black man. Still a little taboo–but very commonplace–white women have been attracted to black men for centuries. Like Bakos, I have always felt that it was “masculinity thing.” Dark skin is simply more masculine; that’s why people also fear it. White men like to watch black men play sports because, deep within their subconsciousus minds, they regard black men as gladiators. And that’s exactly the same reason white women like black guys.