Education Is The Enemy Of Marriage
Education is the enemy of marriage. Many people have their essence drained through intense educational experiences. The primary role of the woman is that of the Mother and the primary role of the man is that of the Father. Ask anyone who loves their kids and they will tell you the same. Most women with advanced degrees don’t make good wives because their education, complete with large amounts of feminists indoctrination, makes them bull-headed and office-work-oriented. They show more respect to their bosses than to their husbands. When selecting a wife, men should choose a woman who has her ambition in check - one who enjoys showing respect for her man. Similary, some men will do all they can to please their bosses at work and then come home and treat their woman like dirt. Men should know that, above all else, keeping peace at home should be their first priority. When selecting a suitable husband, women should take care not to select a man with large corporate ambitions. Generally, these men are empty inside and can only find self-esteem when given a certain title (director, partner) by white people in corporate America. Most black men that went to college and beyond fit in this category.
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It looks as if TSO is going to get hit from both sides on this subject. LOL
It looks as if TSO is going to get hit from both sides (genders) on this one.
I can’t wait for the comments!!
This is madness. Madness I say!
The root of the problem is not education, it’s people who come home and treat their spouse with disrespect. Some janitors treat their bosses better than their wives. Some aids treat their bosses better than their husbands.
Education is not the enemy of much other than ignorance.
Peace and good morning. Many blessings!
The term ‘most’ is an injustice here.
I was with you until this part “When selecting a suitable husband, women should take care not to select a man with large corporate ambitions. Generally, these men are empty inside and can only find self-esteem when given a certain title (director, partner) by white people in corporate America. Most black men that went to college and beyond fit in this category.”
I would agree that education itself has much to do with it… but everything is ‘education’… I wouldn’t say ‘formal education’ is the culprit, however.
oh, what’s up with shorty’s hair…
I like it natural, but she could have done something to it…
I see you starting my Monday off right.
Education is not an enemy of marriage. Competition is, ego is, too much ambition is but not education.
Perhaps when finding out that a woman has a goal to get an education a man should bother to find out what are her ambitions for that degree. Is she trying to be at the top of her field at all costs or does she honestly like that field. If so her education and her enjoyment of what she does should NOT be a sticking point for any man and should NOT be a block to a good marriage either. Her making it to the top of her field, should that happen for her, and maintaing balance too should be a compliment to your union, not a challenge to it.
It would honestly be best if women ask the same question of the men that they are in relationships with too. Ask the dude what his goal - his vision is so that you will be on the same page. In other words, check to see if dude is a workaholic and thinks that is a “life”. I know quite a few guys who do this and claim it is because they are bachelors. No, bruh its not only because you are a bachelor or just getting started in your field. You need to cut that out. There is some kind of pleasure being gained from this “workaholic” thing. Trust.
If the person you are interested in is looking for a life that is going to be about acquring and glory then understand that it will NEVER be about you and family and that is true for both men and women.
“Most women with advanced degrees don’t make good wives because their education, complete with large amounts of feminists indoctrination, makes them bull-headed and office-work-oriented.”
This might be the biggest load of crap i’ve ever seen on a Monday morning! Who wrote this?
I co-sign with Nikita, ego is the anti-marriage and education is probably the most common tool used by ego when rearing its ugly head.
A wise man sees me and sees a woman that, in addition to ordinary wifely duties, can educate his children, relate to his problems at work, polish up his resume, help him practice for interviews, and do his accounting when he decides to tell whitey and the corporate negroes to kiss his ass like his wife has been encouraging him to for the last 5 years.
A fool sees me and allows his EGO to see all the things you’ve described here in this post.
If you had a couple both of whom only had high school diplomas both of them would be working phyisically demanding jobs with low pay there is going to be discontent over the lack of money working long hours because they have few employment options, etc.
BTW is that a picture of DV’s cousin?
Nikita.. explain your ‘too much ambition’ notion… I dont think I understand that part.
Too much ambition = workaholic. Everything is about the goal. Living a balanced life that can be enjoyed takes a back seat because of that goal. There are no limits to acquire that goal.
Or as stated in the post itself:
“When selecting a suitable husband, women should take care not to select a man with large corporate ambitions. Generally, these men are empty inside and can only find self-esteem when given a certain title (director, partner) by white people in corporate America. “
Maybe I’m reading this too literally, but most sane women don’t respect men who aren’t ambitious.
And shouldn’t.
Perhaps it is what they are ambitious about. Is that why you included the qualifier of “corporate” ambitions, J?
A man who is ambitious about being a wage slave and pleasing whitey is no one to bring home to meet the folks (unless that’s your metric of success). A man who is ambitious about his own creations/business is someone women should be throwing their panties at.
Education is not an enemy of marriage. Competition is, ego is, too much ambition is but not education. - Nikita
Cosign this. (I think this is actually what the author of this line meant. Many times, one leads to the other)
” A man who is ambitious about being a wage slave and pleasing whitey is no one to bring home to meet the folks (unless that’s your metric of success). A man who is ambitious about his own creations/business is someone women should be throwing their panties at.” (Om Manar)
Ahhh…So that explains the miscellaneouse thongs, g-string and high cut briefs that I used to find on my car every morning.
Big Wayne.. you’re a funny dude.
Thanks Nikita. I always wrinkle my forehead when anyone talks about anything related to ‘too much ambition.’ Picture us telling our lil ones not to be ‘too ambitious.’ I understand the meaning most times, but so many do not…
I’ve always loved lots of ambition in women…
Balance is hard anyway, we may as well work at it together…
Y’all are hilarious, and you seem to have grasped the point.
Do I literally mean that educating yourself is a bad thing? No. But it can be.
If you allow the fact that you have a degree to prevent you from bonding with other people, yes, education is the enemy of marriage. I know many people like this.
Yes, D,
I’m talking specifically about “corporate” ambitions. Most super-corporate negros are gay. You have to be gay to take orders like that your whole life!!
Cookie,
I still stand behind the most women with advanced degrees statement. Most is not all. When the homies come to me and say, “Ah dawg, I met a chick that went to Columbia!” I’m like, “So, can she cook?”
J: I still stand behind the most women with advanced degrees statement. Most is not all. When the homies come to me and say, “Ah dawg, I met a chick that went to Columbia!” I’m like, “So, can she cook?”
RJEsq: And in the case of me and my homegirls and likely every chick on TSO, he’s respond “hell yeah dawg!”
Seriously, where do you guys find these helpless women?
J,
Please give us some balance when you write these things. Although, I admit they get people to readin’. Surely, you are not saying women should not put up with any man who has corporate ambitions/careers. And surely, you don’t think all edumacated broads are stubborn.
What I’m taking away from you, all extremes aside, is that men and women should place their careers in the proper context when it comes to family. When that is out of wack, your family suffers due to the absence of one or both spouses/parents.
big j i know u r behind on the wire so u may not know the true character or fate of stringer bell. once u find out i think ull change ur name.
Stringer was the prime example of what you are arguing against, J. He placed business above his family and friends to the detriment of both. He wasn’t married either, J, so he was probably gay according to your standards.
Big Wayne - I was gonna let the late azz “Stringer” nickname slide… You still on season 2 J??
Rich makes a good point, J.
Defend yourself!
Rich,
I always uses hedges like ‘many’ and ’some.’
You cannot deny the truth of what Big J says. Big J is the best relationship guru on the Net. I make heterosexuality cool, and having children something that increases niggaz’ swagger. I put homosexuality in proper context and I make niggaz marry they baby mommas. I make women want to give up sleeping around and, instead, be faithful and respectful mothers.
Big Wayne,
Why do have to defend a character on The Wire? All y’all getting that sensitive?? I’m only on Season 2, so Stringer is still gangsta.
j, u need help….lol
He’s brought out the third person. LOL!!!
We did a post on this a little while back. Check this out, you’ll be surprised:
Is this a Myth or Fact?
The more educated a woman becomes, the lower her chances are of getting married.
http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2008/02/11/marriage-myth-or-fact/
Thank you BlackandMarried!
“A recent study based on marriage rates in the mid-1990s concluded that today’s women college graduates are more likely to marry than their non-college peers, despite their older age at first marriage. This is a change from the past, when women with more education were less likely to marry.”
BOOYAH!