He is particular about his appearance, his house and his possessions. He is self-absorbed and shuns emotional involvement or commitment with women. He thinks a woman would stifle him and children would be a burden. He seeks fulfillment through small bits of recognition from corporate America.
Does this sound like gay behavior?
By the time a single man turns 33, people question his sexuality behind his back. By the time he turns 35, they question it to his face.
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Tried and true huh?
Gay must equal “wack/insert derogatory term”
Certainly can’t mean he likes poking other males. Well, maybe you do.
At any rate, this is funny.
This part —> “He is particular about his appearance, his house and his possessions. ” … sounds like all of my STR8 …. product dealing/hustling cousins… Anybody need something?
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Oi vay
Does this sound like gay behaviour? NO.
At 33? Uh oh. I guess I better hustle some babe into eloping before September!
not gay, maybe just scared in regards to the comment regarding women and children; don’t want to be like their dads or just want to be a better version; want to provide a better life; fear; fear of failure; “analysis paralysis” on life; if you don’t want to fail at somethin, it is easy to come up with a million excuses/reasons not to try—then no one can ever say you failed (divorce, bad ass kids); you can self-absorb b/c you are always in control; taking on family makes you responsible for more than just yourself and that can be scary for some; again,fear of failure; choosing wrong; getting it wrong; so instead, focus on just getting you right and justifying the existence throuh a new defined lifestyle of prolonged singlehood; but no, not gay;
If my man’s stuff looked like this, I’d be concerned of where I really am on his priority list. These types tend to unrealistically look for perfection—which doesn’t exist, so once again, the single status is justified—b/c no one will fit the criteria. That would be too much pressure to fit neatly among all those things. No one would ever be good enough or “worthy”. And the farther along a man gets in his success without a woman by his side or in his corner, the less trusting they are of women who do come along—hence more prolonged singlehood.
Okay, I’m done.
i had a boyfriend like the guy in this photo. no lie, he took a photo of himself every morning after he got dressed “to keep track of what looked good with what.” it was a curious adventure. i married someone else.
And the farther along a man gets in his success without a woman by his side or in his corner, the less trusting they are of women who do come along—
Food for thought for sure.
Thank you Jasai and Truth.
Rod and Rich,
Hate me now. Love me later.
Keep up the good work Big J.
Sheeple always have a hard time with the Truth. Shoot, they crucified Jesus when he tried to tell them.
Funny but no one every questioned my sexuality to my face. Never. If they had, they would have got laughed at and maybe, just maybe, “five across the lips” like Fred Sanford would have done.
J, you still kill me with this line of thinking.
note: i didn’t say he was gay. don’t think he is/was. just too curious for me.
What’s up J,
I check out your site periodically and homosexuality appears to be a repetetively reoccuring theme (also interesting that you have the same cast of characters responding to issues involving homosexuality, but I digress). I know who you are from Morehouse and I am quite sure that you are completely heterosexual so what exactly is the fascination? This question was not meant to cause you to jump on the defensive, but I am just curious.
Great blog by the way!!!
Big J: Rod and Rich,
Hate me now. Love me later.
I see jasai’s ex isn’t the only one who is full of himself.
My reaction was that you need new material because you’ve used that same line well over a dozen times since l stumbled upon this blog about a year ago.
BTW if you were a comic you would be….Sinbad. *smile*
Anonymous,
Thanks for the post. It’s not a fascination with homosexuality; it’s a fascination with the love between black men and women, and a recognition that that love is in grave danger from distinct social and political forces, including, but not limited to, feminism, gay politics and secularism. If there is any facet of gayness that I’m flabbergasted by, it’s the power of gay politics, which is a primary contributor to the destruction of the black family.
Rod,
Wherever I go, people confront me about “How Heterosexuality Works” all the time. Some people are overtly hostile because they feel promoting heterosexuality and love between a man and a woman is anti-gay. Others, like Maceo, just say, “J, nigga you crazy.” Black men who claim to be heterosexual but remain single well into their 30s are destroying our community because they force black women to remain single too long, thus spawning vast numbers of fatherless children. It’s a challenge.
no one makes black women have children out of wedlock. it’s a volunteer organization. taking away responsibility also takes away power to change.
Of course no one “makes” black women have children out of wedlock, but when you have women single for so long in a society obsessed with meaningless sex, what else could be the result? Yes, resonsibility should not be taken away, but we also have to deal with reality.
Rod,
Wherever I go, people confront me about “How Heterosexuality Works” all the time. Some people are overtly hostile because they feel promoting heterosexuality and love between a man and a woman is anti-gay.
Roderick: But you’re the one who asserts that someone who isn’t married by x date is gay.
You use it as a slur and a means of emotional manipulation to goad people into marrying (or at least agreeing with you) even though they don’t believe that they are ready.
J sez: Black men who claim to be heterosexual but remain single well into their 30s are destroying our community because they force black women to remain single too long, thus spawning vast numbers of fatherless children. It’s a challenge
Roderick: my guess is that most of these women have children out of wedlock way before their 30’s.
Anyway your overemphasis on having someone is mentality which allows these women have these children and accept anything and everything.
Add to that the violence and stupid ish some black women do to have a man because they listen to alarmists like you who claim if they wait too long to get a man then they will end up alone. LOL
With all due respect J that is absolutely ridiculous. The black family has been in trouble for decades and that has absolutely nothing to do with homosexuals or gay politics. The black family is in trouble because we have 15 year old girls who think that it is OK to bring a baby into the world. The black family is in trouble because the young men who impregnate them feel no shame or remorse about walking away from the life they have created. The black family is in trouble because so many young men think their priority in high school should be banging as many girls as they can as opposed to reading as many books as they can.
Also, I fail to see how two women or two men who love and cherish each other and decide to spend their lives together in any way threatens the bond/union that you have with your wife.
And I am guessing that like most heterosexuals you are a bit paranoid when it comes to the power of the “gay mafia”. Not that strides have not been made over the past 3 decades, but there is certainly a long way to go before gays achieve anything even close to equality or even fair treatment for that matter. I don’t have enough room (or time for that matter) to list the freedoms that you take for granted being involved in a heterosexual relationship that gay couples are still fighting for. The reality as I see it (and I would imagine that you disagree) is that heterosexuals and homesexuals can co-exist on this planet without threatening the existence and meaning of the other group. When it is all said and done what we all do behind closed doors plays such a small part in defining who we are as people.
No, it is not gay, but what I would like to see is more men modelling Dresses for Yves Saint Laurent - (See blog from July 8, 2008 ) - Wearing dresses is so much better than reading this blog! I am a hetrosexual male and I just adore wearing dresses and skirts. It is so liberating - and the cool air can blow up the skirt or dress and keep the boys cool in the summer.
Jasai.
‘a curious adventure’….
That’s clever.